This is what I envision when I think about growing old gracefully. The picture above is from an article on Yoganonymous about how yoga can help lessen depression and anxiety in seniors. This woman appears to be happy and healthy, at peace with how she looks and feels. That’s what I want for myself as I age. But I am a realist, and I know that there’s no way for me to get there without help. Lots of help!
Every woman I know can rattle off the things she should be doing to optimize her physical and mental health, usually right down to the particular focus for each decade of life. We don’t need to read the article in every edition of every women’s magazine that repeats the list. Drink at least eight glasses of water a day. Eat healthy (the specifics change every few years, but basically this will always mean eating fresh food in small portions, keeping chemicals to a minimum, and eating a well-balanced diet. Exercise regularly, take time to relax, spend time outdoors, and get eight hours sleep a night. Have routine physical checkups, dental visits, and eye exams. Take vacations. Put effort into all your relationships. Find a job and hobbies that you enjoy. Live within your means financially. Acknowledge your spiritual and emotional needs and find a way to meet them. Take folic acid when you’re younger, calcium when you’re older, and a multivitamin all the time.
There. That’s pretty much 75% of all self-help books on the market today. What doesn’t get addressed is how. What if you have a physical disability that prevents you from doing pretty much any weight-bearing exercise? “Water aerobics!” my physicians are all eager to suggest. Yep, I loved deep-water aerobics when I could afford it. But with zero income I certainly can’t pay that membership anymore – haven’t been able to for years. And my disease process is degenerative, so the odds are against me doing yoga on the beach a couple of decades from now.
The same applies to eating a healthy diet when someone is lactose-intolerant, doesn’t react well to sugar substitutes, and has had bariatric surgery. Trying to get sixty grams of fat into three small meals is a tough job.
But the most common stumbling block is one phrased best by a plastic surgeon speaking to a busy physician I knew many years ago. He told her that “her career did not lend itself to aging gracefully”. This was a woman to whom her career was a calling, and she’d never consider altering it for something as trivial as vanity. But she took good care of herself and was tired of looking tired all the time. Back then plastic surgery was the only serious option.
My mother-in-law was one of the most brilliant women I’ve ever known. I used to say that before there was Google everyone just called Pat. And it’s true! She had the most magnificent store of knowledge, and a skill for diplomacy that would put any Ambassador to shame. All of which made her swift decline through dementia such a tragic loss. She should have grown old gracefully, and be holding her beautiful great-grand-daughter right now.
I guess what I’m saying is we all need to do what we can with what we have. I’ve recently found a site with some exercises I can do flat on my back and a lactose-free protein powder that isn’t repulsive or expensive. I set aside time for prayer and personal development daily, and every day I add something to my current novel-in-progress. I love writing – it feeds my soul.
I may not ever get to the beach again, and I may never be as flexible as the woman in the picture above, but I’m improving what I can and coming to terms with the rest! I’m losing weight (plateaued out at seventy pounds down – fifty to go) and am keeping my skin more than snug with Nerium’s Firm body cream. It’s actually done much more for me than I expected, and I just got rid of all my underwire bras! I don’t need them anymore and they were so uncomfortable. I bought cute bralettes in the same cup size that are adorable and don’t make me grumpy 🙂 I also tossed my collection of Spanx – no one is happy wearing Spanx. And since the perfectly-named Firm has moved my curves back to where they’re supposed to be I don’t feel a need to hide them!
Nerium’s Night Cream has helped greatly in getting rid of all the sun damage I earned in my teens and twenties, and I’m looking forward to trying out their new eye serum – my order should arrive any day and here are the results two of my close friends have had already:
(Jamie after TWO DAYS)
(Kim after THIRTY MINUTES)
Crazy, right?! That’s nothing compared to EHT, Nerium’s Brain Booster. It reduced my stress level dratically when my husband’s memory started to fail (he’s only in his early fifties) and he and I both saw a significant improvement after only six weeks. With his mother’s history that was a huge blessing!
It’s never too early to start ensuring that you age gracefully and are able to enjoy your entire life to the fullest! Do what you can now, and use the tools at hand. Don’t waste your time on relationships that don’t bring you joy, or jobs that make you miserable. Don’t worry about the things you can’t change, but start now changing the things you can! And check out my website if you need help from Nerium. My phone number’s on there for a reason – call me if you have questions or just want more information about ingredients, tips, etc. But don’t put it off, because everyone who becomes a Preferred Customer (the least expensive way to buy) in April will automatically get 10% off and FREE SHIPPING on all future orders! Miserable in your job? I can help with that, too, and this is the best month to do it!
So toss the underwires and Spanx, put on your favorite yoga pants with the hole in the knee, and go take a walk with the kids, the dog, or your honey! Be happy!