Reviving the Intimacy in Your Relationship on Valentine’s Day

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gift bag
I went to Target the other day to put together something special for my husband for Valentine’s Day. I don’t know if it’s that hypnotic bullseye symbol or something circulating through the air at Target, but no matter how short my list or how tight my schedule I wander. I have to stop at the dollar aisle when I first enter the store, and by the time I’m finished there I’ve completely forgotten what I’m shopping for and will likely stroll down every aisle. That’s not just me, is it?
When I eventually reached the Valentine’s Day section a couple of items had already made their way into my cart. I’d spent a long time deciding between a gift bag or a basket for my husband’s Valentine’s gift. I’ve been known to hoard baskets (I was up to two hundred at one point) so I went with the gift bag this time.
basket vs bag
My trip through the men’s underwear section wasn’t optimistic. My husband is picky about underwear (boxer briefs only) and I figured all the cute stuff would be boxer-only. But Target came through for me – cute boxer briefs with a pattern of hearts, Xs, and Os! Oh, and lips!
boxer briefs
There were no T-shirts or pajamas that caught my eye, but as I passed the books and magazines I caught a glimpse of February’s Family Fun magazine and my heart sank. I remembered all the years I’d waited for that particular issue to arrive in my mailbox so I could call my best friend in Atlanta to plan which elaborate DIY valentines we’d create for with our kids. My favorite was the plane with a lifesaver fuselage and stick-of-gum wings. I think it had a banner behind it with ‘You make my heart soar!’ But since my youngest is sixteen my valentine-making days are over. So after picking the perfect candy in the Valentine’s Day section I cruised along to the feminine care aisle where I found the new K-Y® LOVE products: Passion and Sensuality!
feminine care
Don’t bother searching for these anywhere else, though. They are exclusive to Target for Valentine’s Day. In fact, there’s 10% off on Cartwheel February first through the fourteenth! (Don’t you just love Cartwheel?)
on shelf
It’s past time for Valentine’s Day to become, once again, about me and my husband. We’ll have an empty nest in just a few short years, and it’s time to prepare for that. I don’t want us to be one of those couples who realize after the kids have left home that they no longer have any interests in common and have nothing to talk about. We’ve almost never done ‘date nights’, despite good intentions. Exhaustion, stress, chronic pain, and dire financial straits do not add up to relaxation and romance.

So I had to get creative. Michael is a courier, and keeps a small notebook in his car’s drink-holder for special deliveries or pick-ups not on his regular route. I bought him a new one in the stationary aisle and I’m writing romantic notes in pink marker on random pages. That will serve for months of sweet surprises for him during his work day, and I’m sure I’ll get a text every time he finds one. That should give me time to rest well, ice my back and neck, and time my pain pills and muscle relaxers appropriately. I can’t turn around a really bad pain day, but I can make an ordinary day more manageable.
notebook (2)
Final touches: a ‘fireplace’ DVD for the bedroom TV (or ‘rainstorm’ CD in the summer) and a scented candle. Once the teen has finished his homework and put on his noise-cancelling headphones to game a bit before bedtime I’ll drop a container of Passion or Sensuality into a cup of hot water to warm on the bedside table. No scent or taste, just warm, smooth oil to massage away the day’s worries and help this weary couple connect.
bedside table
What are your Valentine’s Day plans? Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle or Frozen Valentines with your own celebration after the little ones are tucked in? Or a full-out dress-up dinner with roses, champagne, and candlelight? Either way, K-Y® can help magnify your sensual connection. And let’s face it – with our hectic, stressful lives we can all use a little help!

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5 thoughts on “Reviving the Intimacy in Your Relationship on Valentine’s Day”

  1. This quote jumped out at me, because it’s the same thing I say to Brett …..
    “I don’t want us to be one of those couples who realize after the kids have left home that they no longer have any interests in common and have nothing to talk about.”

    I worry about that, too ….. because we can’t hold a conversation over the din of the children! 🙂

    1. Therefore, either you will both be deaf from all the noise by then or you will have saved up years of things you WANTED to talk about! I can see you two as one of those retired couples who run together every day and are constantly travelling to see kids and grandkids or having them come visit you 🙂 And you and Abby will laugh about how everyone assumes you’re sisters!

  2. I love the way you are thinking about your relationship and how you can use this gift to give it some juice. Those notes in the notebook that he will need and use is brilliant. I love it! #client

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