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Why Ash Wednesday Falls When It Does

Ash Wednesday is March 1st this year. For those readers who really don’t care about when Ash Wednesday or Easter fall this year (or any year) this may come in handy someday as cocktail party chatter. For others, It’s a menu-planning guide, a social calendar, and a second chance at behavior modification if that whole “New Year’s Resolution” thing didn’t go so well. There are actually two calculations that are used to create Ash Wednesday.

In 325 A.D. the Council of Nicaea set the date of Easter as the Sunday following the paschal full moon, which is the full moon that falls on or after the spring equinox. In practice, that means that Easter is always the first Sunday after the first full moon that falls on or after March 21. Easter can occur as early as March 22. We know that Easter must always occur on a Sunday because Sunday was the day of Christ’s Resurrection. But why the paschal full moon? Because that was the date of Passover in the Jewish calendar, and the Last Supper (Holy Thursday) occurred on the Passover. Therefore, Easter was the Sunday after Passover.

Then there is the length of Lent. From the earliest days of the Church, Christians have desired to prepare for the celebration of Christ’s Resurrection at Easter through a period of fasting and prayer that mirrors the forty days that Christ spent in the desert at the beginning of His ministry. But there was one little hitch: Because Sunday is the day of Christ’s Resurrection, from the time of the Apostles on fasting has been forbidden on Sunday.

We’ve whittled it down over the years in our culture to mean “no meat on Fridays, and give up something for Lent”. So most people give up sweets, alcohol, TV, or whatever. Then they go to a big fish-fry on Friday nights! Lent is kind of a party season where I live. Every Friday night the lines at all seafood restaurants are out the door, and churches that have fish-frys are bombarded, and the neighbors complain their driveways are blocked.

But Lent isn’t really another chance to give up something bad for you. It’s an opportunity to do penance for your sins. Of course children, the elderly, the ill, and pregnant women are excluded. Since my conversion to Catholicism as an adult I’ve given up something different every year. The hardest year was when I gave up novels. I detest non-fiction. Within a week I was all twitchy and reading shampoo bottles. Seriously. I’d see a novel by an author I liked on a patient’s bedside table and the doctor I was rounding with had to practically drag me out of the room. But I realized how much time I spent reading fiction.

This year I’m pulling out the big guns. I’m fasting for the forty days of Lent. I will take dietary supplements, but I will only consume liquids. I have a lot to atone for this year. Ask anyone. “Sweet Angie” has been in hibernation. I’m being honest, authentic, genuine with everyone. That means no filter. I suspect it comes from being in constant pain that only increases as the years pass. And probably the stress of being a breadwinner who hasn’t won any bread in several years and is thereby only a financial liability to everyone I care about.

So if you want an honest answer about anything I’m the person to ask. Just check with my pharmacy and my primary care doc’s office. Someone dropped the ball, and I really didn’t care who. I just wanted the massive dose of blood pressure medication I’d been without all weekend called in and filled before I had a stroke. I got that accomplished, but not without multiple phone calls and me spending my entire day in bed.

There are wonderful things coming up this spring! My granddaughter will be born in April, my youngest child will graduate high school in May, and sooner or later I’ll get a hearing with a judge and hopefully I won’t have to worry about keeping a roof over our heads or keeping the power and water on!

So when I get ashes Wednesday it will be a symbol of me giving myself over to God. I will fast and I will pray. Pray More Novenas will be sending out a prayer daily if you don’t have one planned. I’ll be praying for my family this year. They are undergoing a lot of change. Positive change, but change nonetheless. And change is stressful. This Lent, make a positive change for yourself!


Lent, Therapy, and Pain Management (again)

— 1 —

I’m gonna start with a really strange question: what should I be talking about in therapy? Outpatient therapy is all part of the post-suicide package, but I’m not really sure that it’s the best use of mine or the therapist’s time. My issues are that I am in constant pain, and because of the pain I can’t work, and so am in dire financial straits. There’s nothing chatting for forty-five minutes once a week can do to change either of these circumstances. I asked my best friend about it yesterday, and she suggested that I should let the therapist lead the sessions in whatever direction she deemed appropriate. That’s not in my nature, but I’ve never done the therapy thing before. So, for those of you who have done or are involved in therapy – what are the “don’t miss” issues? And for those of you who know me personally, please feel free to rattle of a list of the top ten things I need to address before I stop going to the therapist.

— 2 —

I was worried about my fifteen-year-old son. He’d been spending long periods of time in the bathroom. So I asked him if he was constipated, and offered him stool softeners and laxatives, suggested he drink more water, and made other helpful “mom” suggestions. He rolled his eyes at me, standing there by the bathroom door, and lifted the phone that is apparently surgically attached to his hand. “No, Mom, I was just doing well on my game and didn’t want to stop.” So I reached past the laxatives in the cabinet and pulled out a lysol wipe for his phone. #FirstWorldProblems

— 3 —

I visited my fourth pain management doc this week. Just to start things off on the right foot I made sure to tell him that my medications were being managed by my primary care doctor and I wasn’t interested in changing any of them, nor was I interested in repeating any of the treatments I’d tried and failed elsewhere. I was there to find out of I was a candidate for an implantable spinal stimulator – that’s all I needed from him. Well, I may be or I may not be. He’s going to see me again in a month. Between now and then I will be having another MRI (I’ve lost track of how many I’ve had) but this one will be of sections of my back that have not been scanned before. The pain between my shoulder blades, which my first neurosurgeon told me was “referred pain” and everyone else has ignored, has this guy worried. So we’ll soon see if the rest of my spine is as screwed up as my cervical spine.

— 4 —

For Lent I’ve given up negative self-talk (see, don’t I sound like someone in therapy?) and have been trying to add music to my dat every day. I’d just gotten out of the habit of listening to music, and it’s something I enjoy. Maybe my days alone will be a bit less quiet.

— 5 —

Ice storm early in the week, wind storm and pouring rain mid-week, but our ancient and decrepit eyesore of a garage is still standing. I suspect it’s like cockroaches, and would withstand a nuclear attack.

— 6 —

I tweeted my first #doge this week: “So bed. Very sleepiness. Much comfy. Wow.” I think I like #doge better than haikus 🙂

— 7 —

Every Wednesday two women come to my house around lunchtime. we’d originally envisioned it as a carry-over from group therapy, which we all enjoyed. One woman had a book and workbook called Boundaries that we were going to work through together. It’s quickly become a chance to just get together, chat, eat, laugh, and bounce ideas off each other. Next week we’re going to try something crafty. I’m not sure what it will evolve into, but I know it’s something we all need 🙂

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Getting Ashes

I love Ash Wednesday.  I love Lent.  When I was going through RCIA in preparation for joining the Catholic Church many years ago Lent was such an intense, emotional time for all of us in the group that its magic still grips me.  From fasting on Ash Wednesday and having my forehead marked with ashes from last Palm Sunday’s burned palms to the Easter Vigil I savor it all.  The music of Lent touches some deep part of my soul.

Every year I try to give up something meaningful for Lent, something that will make a difference in my life and leave a void for God to fill.  Last year I gave up caffeine, which was huge considering I was still getting up at 3:15 every morning for work.  One year I gave up novels, my intention being that I would read more inspirational and self-help books.  That was probably my most difficult year.  One year I did “forty bags in forty days” as a way to clear the clutter from my home and my life.  That went very well.  This year I’m giving up all alcohol and sodas.  I shouldn’t drink with the medications I’m on, anyway, and the diet sodas I drink are full of chemicals my body doesn’t need.  I’ll replace them with water, and take a step towards improving my general health.  It’s not a lot to give up, so I’m also setting aside extra time every day for prayer, and I’m going to attend the Stations of the Cross every other Friday.

And I have to admit, on a completely non-spiritual note, that I love a good fish fry 🙂


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